A lot of ladies complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused to offer them sex, in fact some are even tempted to give away their “virginity” in other to keep the guy
Let me be very blunt here, virginity may not be the major reason why the guys go away. Yes! no doubt, there are several guys who want sex, and if they don’t get it, they walk away. The problem may not be with the virginity or the sex.
The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and foolish were both virgins, the other five were not hindered from seeing the bridegroom because they were virgins or they lost their virginity, but because they were foolish; they were called foolish why? they had no EXTRA OIL.
Most ladies don’t have the EXTRA OIL to sustain any relationship. While many brag about their virginity (that is all they have to offer), they forget that virginity ends the night after the wedding, but the EXTRA OIL is what will keep the marriage going.
If a man ask a lady for sex and she says NO, the man can walk away if what he really wants is sex and also if that is all he thinks the lady can offer him. A man may not come to a lady for sex, well, he may be tempted to ask for sex later, if the lady turns him down, the man may still stay in the relationship if he sees other things that are valuable to him.
Before you think guys are walking away because you are a virgin, look inwardly. Some ladies who brag about virginity are somewhat timid, some impolite, un-cultured and aggressive. Why would a guy stay with such a lady? Some ladies do not have manners, faulty thinking faculty, some are not social, some are dull, and maybe the best thing they have to offer is their hips, nice backside, nice breasts and nice lips, and so when a guy comes because of all the physical appearance and wants sex, if he is turned down, he walks away because there is nothing else interesting about the lady.
Most men now are even scared of marrying such ladies (virgins). Their fears prompt them to want to “sample” before they discuss marriage because many ladies who got married as virgins have caused their husbands to be looking elsewhere as they are too naïve on bed.
However, you don’t need to “sample” to be sure she will be good, you can know a lady who will be good at home and on bed by her decent conversation, by the level of knowledge acquired, by her quest, zest or passion for knowledge and by God’s direction.
There are many ladies who are still virgins, they have great relationships, they have many friends around them, you may not even know they are still virgins unless they tell you.
Do not break your virginity because a guy wants to walk away, unless you don’t have anything else to offer in relationship. It is not all about virginity, work to build up virtue. Virginity is good, but to your virginity, add knowledge, add EXTRA OIL.
“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness, And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.” 2 Pet. 1:5-7